With the second Sunday in May just rolling past I think it would be foolish not to dedicate my blog to the nations most time poor, over worked, under paid, often under valued resource…mothers.
So a big thank you and lots of love goes out to all the mothers, stepmothers, grandmas, foster mums, and mothers to be.
For one day a year we honour them with dodgy handmade gifts, and often equally crappy meals, all painstakingly put together with love.
I for one learnt the hard way just how important both a mother and a fathers role is in the raising of children and how we both bring different assets to the mix needed to raise kids.
After my first marriage failed, leaving with me with three young children aged between two and six to care for half the time I did my best to play the role of both parents.
If I had put my efforts into being the best Dad I could be, rather than trying to play both Dad and Mum (a role I’m not wired for), it would probably have been a much smoother transition for everyone.
Mother’s plays different, sing different, cuddle different, comfort and console differently to Fathers, and try as we may at times, we can never emulate the other role.
Mothers make the best mothers, and Fathers make the best Fathers, and hopefully for those single parents who don’t have the luxury of the opposite parent in their children’s life, there is a friend or relative close at hand who can mentor and help to play this opposing gender role.
The importance of this has been recognized in the setting up of UNCLE and AUNTY movements around the country so kids can enjoy time with a mentor the same gender as the parent who may not be available in their life.
Many of the writers involved in our book, One Got Past the Keeper were UNCLE’s before and after they became parents, and several still have relationships with the boys they mentored ten years ago.
So back to where I started, here’s to all the Mother’s, we truly can’t get by without you.
Just to touch briefly on a subject Nick raised a couple of blogs ago about how to discipline a defiant two-year-old.
I found I resorted to the ever popular method of my own parents; counting.
You remember when you were asked to get in the car or get into the bath, and when you said no, you were given a three count, 1—–2——
This seems to work for my youngest; he rarely waits to find out what ever happens if I got to 3.
It’s also helping his understanding of fractions, two and a quarter, two and a half, two and three quarters, two and seven eights.
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